(Sorry this is so long,im just worked up)
My boyfriends mother doesn’t like me even tho she pretends to. She constantly sends me texts pretending to be nice to get information out of me. She’s also made rude comments about women with large breast infront of me (I have big boobs) She says that women with large breats always sleep thier way top the top of the corporate world, among other comments. She is flat chested. And I guess in the past my bf says she used to ant to get breast implants. I’m blonde, thin, 21, and sometimes I model. I sing very well. I guess a natural talent. I was in advanced choir in high school and got every solo I tried for. I work right now as a waitress at a club. I work hard at my job, even if its just a waitressing job. My boyfriend hurt his back/hip and hasn’t had a job in years but makes lots of money with his side jobs. He went to college for business and computers. Shes 54, shes kind of attractive for her age, tall, thin but has a thick mid section, shes never been to college and her husband owns a business she does the booking for. She lives in a cute but dated home. Always clean. Shes always been a stay at home mom. My boyfriends father also owned a contruction business she did the booking for.I have nothing against house moms but my mom works 12 hr days and hes the primary provider in her hoursehold. My dad is a deat beat(dont know him)and I think coming from a broken home bothers my bfs mom. I’ve talked to her about it and I used to think she sided with me. I used to tell her everything. My boyfriend is her first son,30, and she has another son, 25. Her younger son doesnt really work if he does its for his stepdad.. and he models, his mom pays the photographer to take pics of him if u want to call that modeling/and he has had many singing lessons but cannot sing. He thinks hes going to be an actor. He even moved to LA once and his mom paid for rent and he came back after a few months. Her husband, (my bf’s stepdad) has his own landscapping biz, and is an alcoholic who also makes rude comments and jokes around alot. One time he came after me pretty rude on thankgiving and he has never apoligized for that to me. Only to my bf. My boyfriends mom actually tried to tell my boyfriend I was the one being rude in a voice mail and two sec. later left my a voice mail saying she was sorry for what happend.Me and my boyfriend were laying by eachother when this happend. There are many stories like this/ but she continues to want to be close with me and nice to me and I dont understand why. I just want her to back off. I dont know what to say or do without being rude.
The comments they make may seem unintentional at first, but I caught on pretty quick. They watch everything I say and do and laugh and joke about it. She will always take us out to dinner. She spends lots of money on buying my boyfriend gifts, anything he wants pretty much..like 2,000$ gift cards, furniture, anything..and she will buy me gifts also. I’m thankful for the dinners, and gifts dont get me wrong but i can’t help but I think theres something behind it. At first we got along really well but something changed. I think shes only being nice to me to get info about me about my bf.. She will use things I say against me later. She will twist things I say into something different so my bf will get upset with me. She gossips alot about others misfortunes. I thought she was my friend. She said i was like a daughter to her. My bf doesn’t really talk with her directly and hes kind of a private person. So she pretty much uses me. Shes going thro menopause now and gets really emotional, and bitchy. When we go out she will always make comments about my clothes, my hair, and always asks me how I eat so much and stay thin. She eats like a bird and obsesses over weight, and I love food. So does my bf. My bf was a picky eater but since hes been with me he will try all different kinds of foods and like them. i can tell it bothers her. I dont know why. She will say things like “ew, sea food is gross” and I “can’t believe jimmy likes that I could neer make him eat that when he was little”
His grandparents (her parents) live with her. his grandfather is sick with cancer and probably wont be around much longer. his grandmother is a sweet lady but for a while now she also makes comments and it hurts. I feel like my bf’s mom is talking crao about me to his entire family and now they are all in on this. I love my boyfriend and I hate that all of this is happening. Sometimes I feel like I have to say comments back to defend myself.. but I never want to be rude.
We just moved into a new place and she keeps pushing to come and see the place when we’re not ready. I think its because of what happend on thankgiving two yrs ago. we were 20 min late because we went to my familys house (only for a half hour) when we had to spend over 7 hours at her house. Like my family wasn’t as important. When we walked in everyone had thier fo
wtf I’m not reading all that.
-5 points for you
+2 for me!
Suck it
ok ill be honest with you that is way too much to read for a question? but i feel for you having you feel so badly bout yourself, all i can say is she may be jealous of your boobs and your prob a very good looking girl with whom shes jealous, talk to him about how you feel, and remember its nt her your dating, if it gets too much and you have visions of you killing the woman then you must talk to her. its not worth the heartache and misery. good luck
Moms always get protective over their boys, especially their first.
If your boyfriend won’t talk to his mom on your behalf, sounds like you need to have a coffee and a proper chat with her. Telling her what she says upsets you isn’t rude. At best just say you’re overly sensitive or something so she doesn’t get too offended, because let’s face it, that won’t help.
If she’s going through the menopause, maybe she is down and feeling jealous of you, who can blame her?
But you do need to have a talk with her. If she has a problem, she should tell you, it’s only fair.
Good luck!