My brother and his wife look like a divorce is on the cards. 3 kids 10 yrs and under. Both wanted the “family dream” but she became the bread winner and my brother the “mum” to the kids. She works for a company that flies her all over the world and they even lived in NYC for 2 years especially for HER career. She earns approx million per year plus bonus’.
she “hates” my brother – in simple terms she is a high flyer and the “family dream” she has out grown. She loves the business lunches and Madison Ave Clothes shopping. She will drop ,000 on a single item. However they dont seem to have any money unless shes popped it all into a swiss bank account. My brother tries to balance the finances but she takes the money and puts in in different accounts. School fees don’t get paid on time let alone the rent. (,000 per/mth) mind you. They have all come home now to Australia but she is still based in NYC . Wont see her kids for 4 mths. She doesn’t need to work this much but clearly her blackberry world is so much more important than her family – yet she wants to do anything to keep the kids away from us and probably my brother when the divorce happens. My brother has said to come home so they can see a lawyer but she keeps avoiding it. She wants an “open marriage”. She only gives my brother 0 AUS per week to live on. All you mums out there…. you understand that its pretty hard for him to get a job when looking after 3 kids. She is soooooooo vindictive that she tells her children what a shit family we all are and we are looser’s. She is so rude about us all but does it through the children and we hear it from them. talk about having a lost childhood.
My brother is a good guy. A great great father. I just wish he could get this divorce happening fast but i think he is still trying to be amicable with her but shes just not into it. I have told him to forget her and get on with his life.
No idea what his going to do about money. Does anybody know what the courts will grant him when he has been the primary care giver for 10 years to these kids even though he is a man?
Also – now we hear that she didn’t get the CEO job, so she is out to “stuff” up the company and said shes quitting after 11 years !!! She now wants to come home from NYC to all of a sudden look after the kids. What on earth can my brother do? Talk about screwing with his mind and him having to be a bit of a puppet?
if they don’t love each other they will be happier divorced…
whatever the official reason might seem to be, the reality is- if there is love- they will not divorce.
The fact that she is divorcing means that she does NOT love him.
Why would you want him to stay married to someone who doesn’t even love him?
Doesn’t he deserve better than that?
I think that u shouldnt interfer in their marriage issues….taking sides cuz hes ur brother is easy…but why did he let himself be the caretaker when he should of been the main breadwinner? isnt he also partly to blame for her behaviour? think about that without getting mad….there are always two sides to the coin…
you come across as a loving and supportive sister. with that said, you do need to back right off. your brother has to step up, be a man, and handle his own situation. also, you must consider that in her world she may have to compete with a lot of men and even be resentful of it. although they may have agreed for your brother to take care of the children, she may have lost respect for him. even though women are the ones now a days getting the promotions and the jobs, there is still a stigma attached to working men vs. working women. he should wait for her to come back, so they could talk about their future. this is for them and them alone. then either way support them.