I’ve been going to a coffee shop by my work regularly for a few months now. I have a crush on one of the guys who works there and am afraid to do anything about it for a few reasons: 1) If he rejects me for whatever reason, one of which could be that he’s taken, it would be awkward to keep going there, and believe me, there’s nowhere else I would go for my morning coffee. 2) If we were to start dating, I think this could make my morning coffee run awkward. 3) One of the other guys who works there has a crush on me and I wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings or make things awkward for anyone. Now, it seems like my crush likes me, but it could just be his personality. However, every single time I go there, even when he’s not helping me, he goes out of his way to look my way, make direct eye contact for quite awhile, give me a sly smile, and sometimes wink. It’s usually so busy–and he is supposed to be working–so we’ve only made small talk. On Halloween, he was getting off work and came across the store to tell me “Happy Halloween,” and rub my back. Last week, I was only able to stop by once, and it wasn’t busy when I came in. It was a slow Friday morning and he didn’t say a word to me, which was unusual. But, he ended up making a heart in my latte foam and set it down right in front of me. I’m trying to just enjoy this and respect the fact that he’s at work and it’s my workday too, but I can’t get him out of my mind, even when I’ve dated other people. There’s chemistry but I’m afraid to act and not sure if I should. I’m hosting a large community meeting for work next week and was thinking of ordering some coffee from his shop – it would be a great excuse to give him my business card with my contact info!
Sorry my question is so long! It’s more simple than it looks.
He wasn’t there today, so I’ll have to wait until next week…
…at the moment I’m so overwhelmed with work and finals that if I’m going to make my move, I’d better wait until things calm down and I’m less stressed. Honestly, I haven’t even been able to get away from work to take a coffee break!
FUCK HIM
lmao do it
if you want more answers sum it up shorter people get lazy
aw that’s so cute, the foam heart, sounds like it came out of a movie. Hun you only live once, you’ll regret not making a move, whats the worse that can happen….if it doesnt work out, theres always starbucks =)
i think he likes you
Go listen to the song “Taylor The Latte Boy” It’ll totally explain this entire thing. Who’d have thought that love could be so caffeinated?
that sounds like a good idea!
Go with your gut and have fun. Life is too short for “what ifs”
MAKE THE MOVE GIRL!!! SCREW ALL OF YOUR REASONS FOR BEING TOO NERVOUS TO ASK HIM OUT!!! GO FOR IT!!
so DO something and stop talking….forget all the other things you mentioned…take the risk…so it falls flat…..what do you lose..a lousy coffee shop!!
SIMPLE JUST WALK UP TO THIS GUY ..YES I SAID GO TO HIM BE ASSERTIVE IT WORKS AND SEE THE OUTCOME..LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR BEING SCARED GO FOR YOURS..
good idea. i like the card idea. of course you could be more direct, but i think you gave some pretty good reasons not to. i kinda buy into them. so yeah, try that.
I like how your brain works girl! Go for it! He sounds like a great guy – how will you know if he isn’t ‘Mr Right’ if you don’t take a chance. I would have caved for the heart in the latte foam. How romantic!!!
okay. let’s look at the signs here:
-came across store to RUB YOUR BACK.
-heart in latte foam. [which is SO f*cking CUTE, btw!!!!]
-eye contact for extended period of time
-he winked at you!
it seems pretty freakin’ crystal clear to me that he likes you. your idea is fantastic. go for it, and see what happens!!!! =) best of luck to you+coffeeshop guy!
you should of nabbed him at the back rub sweety
, ask him one day if he wants to hang out on the weekend some time when hes not working and give him your #, or better yet you could INVITE him to that party next week as a date and just have some fun hanging out with your friends and such and then go out after the party for some one on one time if you didnt get enough at the party.
personally if i was crushing on a chick at a coffee shop and was fixing to be haveing a party at my place of work i would be jumping on that chance to invite here ASAP since usually at work your in a pretty relaxed mood and if any alcohol is involved your more then likly bound to be a great time to be around and it will make the experience all the better for them
I think you should take your points one by one here. 1) You’re already making small talk with the guy, yet you haven’t found out if he’s seeing someone. There are ways to find out discreetly to lesson the awkwardness. For one, the holidays are here! Perfect excuse. “Hey. Do you have any special plans for the holidays, like going to your parents, or your girlfriend’s maybe?”. Or “Have you done your holiday shopping? Anything special planned for your mom or girlfriend perhaps?”. A little subtle hint that you’re interested in his availability, yet without being direct. Though if he’s not already taken, then you can make your move.
2) Awkward, schmawkward. He could give you his employee discount! Or you can take the morning coffee run as an opportunity to plan your dates for later. Assuming he says yes. If not, just take it in stride, calmly walk out, and beat up a pillow once you get home. Still, nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? 3) There’s nothing wrong with having two guys like you. Still, a crush is a superficial thing. At least until he gets up the cojones to actually ask you out. Since he hasn’t yet, don’t feel too guilty about picking up the other guy. Sounds like he’s had plenty of time to ask you out himself. He has no right to complain if you start dating the other guy. Who has already given you a back rub? Sure sounds like he’s interested. 
Go get him already. And good luck!
just make sure your crush gets the card personally and he’s the one delivering the coffee and not the other guy. if the other guy comes that means he’s not that into you like that other guy is.
doesn’t hurt to even ask him out before that. maybe for a drink at a bar nearby. a date outside the coffee shop is definitely something you need to see if you like him more than you think
good luck.